Bereaved - In memorium

In the wee small hours of 7th January 2019, my wonderful father died.
May his katra Rest In Peace.
Birthday memories ...
23rd March 2024 - where have the past five years gone ? they went past in what seems to have been a brief flash, on waking this morning I didn't feel quite as bereft as I usually do at this time of year. Sleep well Patro, I miss you !
e2aa - Somewhat similar to what happened last year, four years seems to have passed in a brief flash and this morning I felt the loss very keenly.
E2A - This morning I awoke to feelings that the last three years seem like yesterday, not that I slept particularly well.
[This is a very personal sense of loss and I am not decrying all the suffering and deaths from the pandemic, quite the opposite]
I typed my first version of this before dawn on 7th Jan 2022, deleted it and tried again.

It would have been his 103rd birthday on 23rd March 2022 (1919 to 2019) and I doubt he would have managed to get to 104 [23rd March 2023] ...

Father's Day in the UK on 18th June 2023. Always a sad day, I miss the opportunity to send himself some bad esperanto in an humourous card.

this links to an image


in my photos entitled "CAS - esperantist"

(which was in the Ipernity Frontpage and What's Hot group on 3rd March 2019)

My wonderful father has died. His heart finally wound down this morning at about 0315-20 on 7th January 2019.

He managed 99 years 9 months and 15 days.

I'm trying to remember all the very many good times, but I'm having a hard time through my tears.

At least he went peacefully, just slipped away.

I had been called in by the hospital, and I'm so glad I stayed overnight, with time to say goodbye.

Funeral details:

13:30 at the Crematorium, Bangor, North Wales and afterwards at the Russell Tea Room, Welsh Highland Heritage Railway, Porthmadog, North Wales.
The In Memorium collection will be for the Middleton Railway Trust, Leeds.

It was my birthday yesterday [6th September] and that made me miss him all over again.
My mother's birthday would have been on 29th September [ had she lived beyond 1982, she could have reached the grand age of 97 this year ]. I miss her as much as I miss my father.


19th June 2022 & 20th June 2021 - It is Father's Day in the UK today. Seems to have hit me rather harder than I expected. So grieving a bit more than the usual.
What I've missed most is the chance to send him a silly card and some bad esperanto to cheer him up.





Stormlizard said:

My sincere condolences Sara.

He had a god innings, only 2½ months short of the Centuy.

5 years ago

Bee Orchid said:

So sorry to see this news. I know exactly how you feel. [[Hugs]]
5 years ago

Maeluk said:

I am sorry I know how it feels. I hope you manage to remember the better times.
5 years ago

StoneRoad2013 replied to Maeluk:

Thank you.

Just starting to find the happy memories again
5 years ago

Jenny McIntyre said:

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Such a shame he almost reached 100. It was good for you as it was no doubt for him, that you were there when he passed.. My father died when he was only 56 and I had no idea he was close to going, and so I wasn't there for his passing. I still miss him even though it was in 1971. My heart goes out to you at this terribly sad time.
5 years ago

StoneRoad2013 replied to Jenny McIntyre:

Thank you, Jenny.

Parents always go too soon, even when they've had a good innings. My mam died when she only 58, in 1982. Sometimes I am reminded of her and miss being able to tell her things.
5 years ago

Mickey fez said:

So sad losing a loved one is heartbreaking.i8n time you will remember the good times with a smile but it does take time for the emotions to run their course,
5 years ago

Peggy C said:

Sara, He will always be close to you - next to your heart.
Put your hand there -- you will feel him.
5 years ago

StoneRoad2013 replied to Peggy C:

Thank you, Peggy.

You are quite right, I'm currently populating the hole he's left with my happy memories of him.
5 years ago

Valfal said:

My deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved father. Though it was great to have him with you for over 99 years, it doesn't make his death any less painful to bear (maybe in fact it's more painful). One consolation is that you had a chance to be with him at the very end. It will help you heal faster. My heart goes out to you.
5 years ago

StoneRoad2013 replied to Valfal:

Thank you, Valfal
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Sami Serola (inactiv… said:

My condolences, Sara.
5 years ago ( translate )

StoneRoad2013 replied to Sami Serola (inactiv…:

Thank you, Sami
5 years ago ( translate )

Stormlizard said:

The link does not work Sara.
5 years ago

StoneRoad2013 replied to Stormlizard:

Thanks, John. I've amended the link, it should have been ...
5 years ago