It was so wonderful to spend time with Antonie (and son, Michael).

We are so grateful that we re-connected with the family a few years ago. Sharon has since passed, but she was the cousin who linked us together.

We tried not to dwell on the sadness, but it would have been wrong to avoid the pain and grief entirely.

I think we got the balance right, or at least I hope we did.

We made a special effort to visit one of her favourite places in Durban, a place where her ashes were scattered.