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Yesterday I found a very interesting post of an ipernity member about the different attitudes about commenting that you find in different photosharing sites.
I was very sympathetic because I'm a real newbie and I lived all the same experiences in the last three years.
I was unable to comment, because I wasn't part of her network.
I sent her an ipermail joking on those attitudes and then thanking her about her sharing of shots and ideas.
Perhaps my joke wasn't too direct or well written, so she blocked me :-(
I always try to be tolerant in real life and virtual life gives me an occasion to be more tolerant: I don't have the need to give an answer immediately. I never deleted a comment form my shots or posts or from the groups I admin. I never blocked a member. I only occasionally removed some member from my network to protect my children from content inappropriate for their ages. So I never saw the blocking mechanism in action.
I discovered some things:
- you don't have a feedback when you are blocked: no notification! so you don't know one many peoples blocked you, when and why
- no notification means no occasion for the member blocking you to let you know why are you blocked
- no possibility to contact back the member who blocked you, so no possibilities to give axplanations, ask for explanations, apologize!
I can live with the fact that someone don't like to be my contact, don't like my shots, don't like my way of managing a group or my network; what I don't like are the three above facts.
I'd like to know your and Team's opinions (pro and cons) on these ideas:
- introducing the notification about a member blocking you
- giving the possibility to add an explanation to the block
- giving a ONE TIME possibility to reply to the notification giving explanations or apologizing
I think that these three simple things can make the difference between a photosharing site and a social network.
(PLEASE: feel free to send me translations of this post!!)
8 comments
Roberto Ballerini -… replied to :
In the past days, when reviewing my network, I tried to add some friends that were unexpectedly out of my network and I was unable to do it: I'm blocked and I don't know why.
I never blocked another member and I don't even know if it's possible to block one by mistake as you can post in the wrong group by mistake!!
Roberto Ballerini -… replied to :
You made my day!
Roberto Ballerini -… said:
I studied French, but I had few occasions of practicing it during the last years. I never studied Spanish and I'm learning it a little bit "on the job". And cultures are another level of magnitude of difficulty up!
My experience here is that sometime we forget these two aspects of communication (and the absence of non-verbal communication, using the keyboard!)
Roberto Ballerini -… replied to :
Frank said:
I´d agreed to your proposals, but I fear it won´t not change much. I think pics, comments and information give you over time some impression of who the one at the other side is. If then one is deciding for breaking the contact with you (because of misunderstanding) ... it´s not nice, but you have to accept.
And there is always 2nd chance of course.
Regards, Frank
(... who never blocked anyone and hopefully never will be blocked by anyone either)
Arne said:
But to me blocking is a harsh means for the tough cases. And for these cases I think the way it is implemented is correct. If I ever should be stalked by someone I would really want to make him/her stop, not being able to reply even once. I never had this problem, but I have seen strange things happen even here on ipernity where the blocking mechanism is important.
To me it's really the last resort, that I don't intend to use lightly, but then I would like to have it the way it is.
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Johan said:
Roberto Ballerini -… said: