Loading
Invitations for joining a network
Dear Ipernity members,

I receive a lot of invitations to join somebody's network.
Some of you might wonder why I don't accept them.
The truth is, I don't add people to my network who send me an invitation without looking at my pictures, without writing a comment, or who only add a star as a favourite.
For me that is a sign of not being truly interested, and interest in somebody's work and the person behind it is for me the reason why I am here.

Love and clicks from Holland!
Erato

13 comments

Jürgen said:

Eefje, das ist bei mir genau so. Ich glaube das sind "Freunde"-Sammler!
9 years ago ( translate )

Eefje replied to Jürgen:

Genau dass denke ich auch Jürgen!
9 years ago ( translate )

My Awake Gottica (m.… said:

Bravo my friend !!! You are such a delicate person dear E - I am afraid sometimes can become more rude with this kind of virtual entities and the entry into my network became even tougher ...
Good luck !!! & Take care !!!!
9 years ago

Eefje replied to My Awake Gottica (m.…:

We simply keep loyal to our true friends my dear;-)
9 years ago

Chris10 said:

Hallo Eefje,

Goed dat je me linkte naar bovenstaand onderwerp. Ik was zojuist 'gevallen' voor je foto's en vond/vind ze zo mooi, dat ik je toch graag toe wil voegen aan mijn netwerk. Ik zag je paddenstoelen, je herfstsfeer en ook nog eens het koepeltje in Zeist, waar ik gisteren heb rondgelopen, dat gaf me een heerlijk gevoel van herkenning.

Ben hier pas nieuw en nog een beetje zoekende, vandaar nog geen berichtjes achter gelaten, maar zal ze zeker niet schuwen.

Groet, Christien.
9 years ago ( translate )

Eefje replied to Chris10:

Ik herken in jouw foto's het oog en de liefde voor de natuur en de kleine dingen. Wanneer je wat langer bij Ipernity bent zul je merken dat veel mensen je bezoeken (zelfs anoniem) en dat mensen je toe willen gaan voegen aan hun netwerk, zonder dat je eigenlijk weet waarom.
Dank je Christien, ben blij met jou in mijn netwerk!
9 years ago ( translate )

.t.a.o.n. said:

different members are handling this in different ways... 8-)
when i was new on iper, i did the same: adding people to my network whom's pics were interesting for me, later i visited them, commented, gave stars...
today i handle it like you, otherwise i would lose the overview. if somebody is interested in my artistical doing, s/he invests a bit time to see what i'm doing...
a lot of us are having a lack of time, so i also accept giving stars only... it's a kind of respect for my pics, a bigger respect is commenting AND giving a star, of course ! ;-)
if someone's losing her/his interest, i kick her/him out of my nw after a while... we need our time for our friends and their doing and the people who have real interest... iper isn't facebook ! :-))
9 years ago

Eefje said:

Ooooooooooooooh we have so much in common:-))
I think there might be a contradiction....It's true, people do have a lack of time, that goes for me too. Yet it is a fact that on the other hand people do spend a lot of time here.
I'd say, better make that quality time, with a yellow star you do show appreciation, still...I'd like to know why it is appreciated;-)
9 years ago

Spo said:

Everyone loves to be praised and approved, but since giving picture a star means you find it magnificient, excellent, superbe and whatnot, why write it? Personally I think those one word comments are fishing, a way to boost your own visibility in the iper ranking engine to get your pictures to some explored list. A real comment would be if you'd write something that is particular to that picture.

This is a cultural thing as well. Here up north we tend to be blunt and outspoken, and exclamations like "excellent!" are easily interpreted as americanism, redundant nonsense, which should be replaced by something more constructive, like how the picture could be made even better. :)

But then again this is ipernity, not an art school. :)
9 years ago

Eefje replied to Spo:

Funny how it works. That I read your comment and that my first thoughts were to reply to the things I agree with and those I disagree with. I'm glad I didn't cause that's not the point!
The reason I wrote this is to share my point of view and to challenge others to do the same.
It's actually the same with my pictures, they are seen and taken from my window at the world.
The appreciation, no matter how it is expressed, encourages me. Especially when people write, in their own words, why they enjoy what they see. That is not common here, but isn't rare either.
What is rare here are the more constructive comments. I've never had the ambition to make the perfect photo, for I believe that doesn't exist. And furthermore, it would be quite boring. I believe that it's the lack of perfection that makes it interesting. I'd be more then happy to receive more remarks, tips, constructive point of views. To learn from and to challenge my eyes to try and look in different ways. I've tried it myself a few times and noticed, unfortunately, as criticism.

While writing this and thinking about it, I feel another 'blog' coming up!
Because I realise that I never comment to the pictures that I don't like (for whatever reason), but without telling people why. And I'm convinced that it's the same with my gallery. That some photos are opened and clicked away. I'll give it a try and see what happens.
Thanks for sharing Spotomy and for the inspiration!
9 years ago

Spo replied to :

You could as well tell me what you disagree with. :) I know I simplified things; for example, I've seen lots of good and funny one-word comments around.

Constructive comments are difficult, almost impossible if both sides don't know each other, because you never know how easily the other end gets offended. It may be diffucult even if they do know each other: I remember back in art school, when our class was packed in a lift on our way to cafeteria after a public review of our work – which is how every exercise was assessed back then. One of the girls had gotten less than favourable critique on her work, and exclaimed in the lift that we really should not be subject to critique at all. "After all, we all managed to get into the school in the first place!" she said. :)

Happy inspiration!
9 years ago

Eefje replied to :

Makes me wish I was a child again, in those days people always smiled when I was being honest;-)
9 years ago

Spo replied to :

I guess the reason they smile at a child and scowl at an adult is the same, the jump at the sting of the needle. Later, when the truth serum starts to spread from the syringe, the "patient" may well appreciate the sting, but usually the doctor does not get feedback of that part anymore. :)
9 years ago